I don’t want my children growing up with parents who are too busy and can’t be present for them consistently. Parents who are too stressed out and too tired to hear about their day or something awesome they saw or did. Or to play a game with them.
I want to be absolutely present for my children and to provide them with a happy, fun childhood. I can’t do that if I’m stretched beyond my limits.
I’m certainly not perfect and work towards being more present for my children daily.
Here are 4 ways I try to be a more present parent.
They aren’t all easy, but they’re important and worth the work.
1) Say NO to anything that doesn’t serve this purpose.
All day long things pop up that demand my attention. Instead of saying yes to all these distractions and demands, I ask myself: “does this serve my purpose?”. It helps me stay focused on doing only the things that make me a better parent.
2) Live a minimalist lifestyle.
Joshua Becker defines minimalism as “the intentional promotion of the things we most value and the removal of everything that distracts us from it.” Everything we own takes our time, energy, and resources. Before buying or bringing anything into your home or life, consider the true cost. How much time and energy will it take from you? Is it really worth it?
3) Live below our means.
By not taking on any more debt or expenses, we’re better able to provide for our children. Whether that be a family dinner out, a trip to the movies, or savings for college – living below our means helps us to live more comfortably and give our family more of what’s really important to us. Stability and quality time.
4) Have businesses/jobs with flexibility and low stress.
Having work that is overly exhausting or stressful affects our children as well as ourselves. It’s hard to be a present parent when you’re not happy with your work situation. It may not be easy to do, but with an open mind you’re bound to find a better option.
It’s time to course correct our lives and make sure we do everything within our power to stay in alignment with what’s most important to us. Especially our children. We can’t get this time back.
Let’s be intentional about this time we have and make the most of it.
Do you have any tips on being a more present parent? I’d love to hear from you!